Daily Life Lessons

It’s Your Fault



Today I’m going to be sharing with you a harsh truth as to why you can’t get the body you want. Whether it be losing stubborn fat, building lean muscle or constantly failing to improve your health it all comes down to one person YOU. 

🙋‍♂️The reason you’re overweight is that something is wrong with you.🙋‍♂️

🙋‍♂️Just like the reason I don’t have the body I want is because of me.🙋‍♂️

We know what eating healthy is and we know what eating bad food is. It’s 2018 and if you still don’t know what “healthy food is” then you must have been living under a rock because the number of people talking about healthy eating at the moment is everywhere. Sure there are a few discrepancies as to “what’s the best” but the general rule of eat whole unprocessed nutritious food is supported by everyone. When I hold up a bag of potato chips vs a bag of white potatoes you know which is a better option.

However, knowing and doing are two different things. You know that you need to make healthier choices but you don’t and you decide to put the blame on other people.

Have you ever used this excuse? ” I was trying to stay on track but then [insert name here] brought some cake into the office and I didn’t want to be rude so I had to eat the cake”.

Seems pretty familiar right? Don’t feel guilty because I made up these type of bullshit excuses myself. I used to blame my housemates for bringing home treats because then I ‘had’ to eat them when he offered them to me.

This happened when I was younger too, I used to blame my parents for buying snacks that they wanted. They didn’t buy them for me, they brought them for everyone, but when I ate the snacks I could just blame them instead of blaming myself for what I had just done.

🤜Yes, It’s my housemate’s fault that he brought me home some doughnuts but it’s my fault that I ate them.

🤜Yes, It’s your coworker’s fault that they brought in morning tea for everyone, but it’s your fault you ate it.

  • We decide what we put in our mouth.
  • We decide if we exercise today or not.
  • We decide if we’re going to drink and eat as much as we want on the weekend.

Nobody is forcing you to do any of those things. 


🙅‍♂️No one is standing there with a gun to your head saying “you must go out on Friday night and get drunk” or “you must have that piece of cake at the office”. 🙅‍♂️

You made that decision yourself.

You decide whether you want to eat the cake or whether you want to eat the healthy lunch that you’ve prepared. You have the opportunity to say no, you have the opportunity to go for a walk, you have the opportunity to ignore the cake, but will you do it?

This is just like me when I’m tired after training clients all day. Hell, I work in a gym and still sometimes find myself making the excuse as to why I can’t train some days.

No one is holding a gun to my head telling me I’ve got to skip today’s workout today because I feel tired,  I make that choice myself.

Start Taking Responsibility

When you change your attitude to “everything is my fault” it becomes a lot easier to make decisions and also to catch yourself when you make bullshit excuses in your head.

Take this scenario:

🙇You just ate some cake.🙇

Instead of blaming your co-worker for bringing it in and offering it to you, you flip the switch and say to yourself: “ok, it was my fault I took the cake, how can I avoid making that mistake again? Well, I could tell all of my co-workers not to offer me any treats or snacks since I’m trying to lose weight. I could pack my own healthy protein balls that taste like cake so when the cravings come up I can just have one of those instead.” 

When you flip the script and start taking responsibility you are now able to make a better choice. When you can take responsibility for things that are in your control you’ve now got power over them and you can decide whether you will or won’t do something.

  • You choose whether you exercise or not today.
  • You choose whether you eat healthily or not today.
  • You choose whether you spend an hour meal prepping this week or spend that hour watching Netflix instead.

This may seem a bit harsh at first but when you take on the responsibility for everything that happens to you it’s one of the most empowering realisations because you realise just how much you have control in your life.


Ready To Take Control?

If you want to start taking control and responsibility of your health and fitness but need some guidance then I want to talk to you.

I’ve got one free spot left for my online coaching and I want to offer it to someone who’s committed to do what’s necessary to achieve the body they want.

Click here to fill out the form and book in your free coaching call today.

Tyson Brown

Author Tyson Brown

Coffee Lover, Online Coach, Superhero movie buff and Intermittent Fasting Expert. Tyson Will help you build a lean body like the almighty Thor and get rid of that stubborn belly fat for good!

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